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What do you do when you love someone so much, but you know being with them, would hinder you from being the person you aspire to be in the future? what do you do when You love them so much, yet know that somethings about them would never change. therefore you do not see how you can live with such character traits forever? What do you do when you know someone is wrong for you, yet they are the ones who have loved and treated you the best?. What do you do when a situation is just not working out but you don't want to get out because you have become too comfortable?
What should I do God?

22 comments:

Rita said...

These questions serious oh!!! Hmmm!!!

Rita said...

Sharing my thoughts...
No matter how reasonable one tries to be, when you are in love, the heart rules...

Q1: I will ask myself if I want to abandon my future for someone...it's so hard and scary to do especially when u're not sure you can meet someone else you'd love that way...but 5 years down the line, unless the person is worth it, there will be this frustrating feeling of unfulfilment...

Q2: Love itself is so complex...if you know you can't live with some traits, please try to take a small step back and rethink...after some time in a relationship, the "heart-skip-beat-when-i-see-you" calms down and those things you couldn't live with become big issues...

Q3: When I found myself in such situation, I was totally helpless...but he walked away...and now when I look back I realise that though he treated me well (and I felt he was the best), his departure gave room for someone better, so so much better, to come into my life...You never know who/what is out there...

Q4: If you really don't like the situation, please walk away in faith before it robs you of the great person you are to be. It might be hard and painful, but it will be worth it...

Q5: You asked the right person - God. HE knows how to do things to work out for our good...HE knows the desires of your heart and HE will give it to you as long as you ask Him.

It is well...

good naija girl said...

I feel like you are asking these questions because you know deep down what the answers are.

I think your age comes to play with these questions. As you are still trying to figure out what you want out of this life with respect to career and the qualities you want in a future partner, I don't think you will regret letting go of this guy.

Before you make any decisions, talk to God like you already seem to be doing, and talk to this man who you love. Tell him the obstacles you see in your way as a couple, and don't let him dismiss them as if things will "work out" because you love each other. It's important to be able to discuss and work on solutions for this together if you're going to be a long-lasting couple.

You may find that rather than breaking up, the solution is to take a break and work on those things that are important to you.

Also, if you have some things that are non-negotiable, don't compromise them for anyone or for love. That being said though, make sure that your non-negotiables aren't too picky, and are based on values and other important character traits or qualities of a human being, and not on the superficial.

Simi Speaks said...

Then let it go.

easy.

we simply make it harder than it is becos we are scared of what we might miss when they are gone.

yes, it will hurt. yes, u will cry and yes, u might have a fleeting momemt of breakup remorse. but let it go.

An advise my mum told me as a teenger was

"there are three types of men. 1st one, u regress when u are with them, 2nd u are the same, just stagnant, and 3rd, u grow in every aspect of ur life. u make the choice"

that small piece of advise always stayed with me. aim for the person that will do for u and then some.

yankeenaijababe said...

This was heart touching...I felt it deeply. How bodi now?

Red Sapphire said...

Its almost impossible to chip in ones's truth having heard what rita, simi and good naija girl said.The truth deep down rings real hard.Asking for what we think helps...but the decision making lies with u.weigh ur options squarely.

Buttercup said...

awww sweetie...i wish i had the answers to those questions, i dont...im sure if u search deep within, u'll find them...

love is crazy in every sense of the word!

amen to the prayer!!

uNWrItten* said...

we wouldnt we all be happy if we had answers to these questions...:)
how are u

OluwaDee said...

What do you do when you love someone so much, but you know being with them, would hinder you from being the person you aspire to be in the future?


You pray for strength n work on letting go. 2 cannot walk together unless they agree. It will be bad for you, n even the other person.

its not gonna be easy, but u can do it with God.

Kindly change the colour of your text, use light colours instead. I had to highlight the text to read them.

It is well.

naijalines said...

Rita has taken the words right out of my mouth...in a manner of speaking. I have nothing else to add except that love nurtures, it does not take away.

*NaijaLines prays in her heart for you that u may be strong enough to do what is right for you* xoxoxo

cinnamonqueen said...

I wish you all the serenity and wisdom and courage you can muster in this situation but can't agree more with Simi's response. Please always keep in mind that the one who truly loves us and cares for us will also let us flourish.

NigerianDramaQueen said...

You pray for strength, courage and wisdom...

You hope for serenity

and then

You let go and let flow.

When it comes down to it-choose you.

Emilia said...

Love comes first in life....What we think we want in life is not always what we need. However if you cant sacrifice let him GO and try no to hurt
One door closes another opens serious stuff here, very deep girl

miz-cynic said...

i actually like ur blog...as per ur questions...u dont know, u dont do , u dont ask sef...just pray and go with the flow and hope for the best.

rayo said...

i've felt this way before. its between you and God oh!. babae, u wan spol my eyes. wats up with the color on ur blog, if no be say i love u ehn...

Buttercup said...

sweeerrrrrrrrrrriiiiiiiiiiieeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!

eFJay said...

All i can say is that...
Your hapiness is important and no one is perfect which is one the reasons why when we truly love someone we accept them the way they are and not try to change them...

Goodluck sweets, i hope errthing works out for the best.

Ef babe

Lady Koko said...

....YOU THINK WITH YOUR BRAIN..AND FEEL WITH YOUR HEART..
thats wot u do!
I ALWAYS SAY...if the brain and the heart DONT go hand in hand.,....THEN THERE IS PROLLY SUMMIN WRONG BEYBEY!!!!!!!!
P.S:STAY STRONG MY LOVER XOXOXO

Afrobabe said...

I agree with Simi...when loving becomes a thinking process let it go...

love ur new decor...

naijalines said...

Ms O, just to let you know I've been dong a series on love. It was inspired by your post. For that I thank you. Pls have a look when you've got a minute. There are 3 parts/posts so far. Take care.

Buttercup said...

Babe wassup na??

LG said...

dearie'just checking up on u'
hope all is well